Psychologist Warns Against Marie Kondo Method: “My Unmatched Socks Bring Me Joy”

Marie Kondo is sparking joy for millions through the konmari method. There’s no doubt it works – but this psychologist wants to warn you against the mental health implications.

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34 thoughts on “Psychologist Warns Against Marie Kondo Method: “My Unmatched Socks Bring Me Joy””

  1. I wad a strange kid. All of my clothes were perfectly folded. Socks were rolled into pairs and ordered in my sock drawer based on length, color, texture. All of my things were placed perfectly on shelves. My toys were rarely played with and kept in their packaging because I wanted to keep them in pristine condition. They were organized in my toy chest and drawers based on type and purpose. I almost never let other kids or my sister play with my toys because I knew they wouldn’t be careful with them. I continued this habit until college when I finally found out I had OCD. Since being medicated, orginzation is no longer an obsession and I can live a normal life. My mother kept all of my toys and I gave them to my daughter.

  2. I let my daughter choose a colorful 6 pack combo of QUALITY socks. Then I buy her an identical pack. After laundry, any sock that doesn’t have a mate gets lined up with the other singles in the back of the drawer. After each load, I take the singles from this load and see if I find a pair. There’s always at least one match. When I notice that one hasn’t had a mate in a couple months, it becomes a rag for a while before it is tossed.

  3. It's an interesting perspective. That said, sadly the stats show that hoarders and people with significantly impacted and unhealthy lives are far more common than those extreme cases of the opposite. I see great value in the Marie Kondo type movement and really hope it gets people reviewing their lifestyle.

  4. 🤣 I'm not even stressin the extreme organization stuff. People can keep it. I do want a fairly organized house that is easy to clean and tidy when necessary. I have a couple spots that seem to collect cludder but I find little pockets of time to get to it when I get to it. My main thing is that the kitchen needs to be clean, no dirty dishes or dirty counters or tables before I either go to bed or leave the house.

  5. Yes, OK I have elements of OCD.
    I can't wear odd socks.
    I can't even put socks in the wash unless they go in as pairs.
    If I find an orphaned sock in the wash it does bring on some distress.
    But I am glad I am not as bad as someone else I know who bought socks with days of the week on them and couldn't bring themselves to wear the wrong day.

  6. I'm closer to Dr. Ramani. In fact, since 2009, I've been organizing my home– writing my receipts on paper for taxes, folding and putting away socks and laundry, going through old recordings and research papers, collating presskits–while doing aerobics. I'm happy to live as a work-in-progress. Love and hugs to Dr. Kondo and other OCD shrinks! Mwah!

  7. I found that I did get a little obsessive for awhile while doing the knonmari method and decluttering in general, but after the clutter was gone, the need to declutter went away as well. Even more strange, I am much less concerned about having my house perfectly cleaned all of the time. It stays mostly clean without all of the excess items, I get rid of things that are no longer useful more quickly now and feel more peaceful in general. After the clutter was gone I intuitively started to focus on more internal issues and feel like I have the space to work through those now. I agree that it is a slippery slope, however I think that is important to understand that if we want to change a bad habit or belief system we may have to obsessively focus on it for a time. The trick will be making sure we stop obsessing after the time to do so has passed.

  8. I’ll speak for myself here but, I think it might apply to many.

    First, I have a lot of stuff and it’s not organized. Underneath, there’s, as they say, good bones, meaning that there is a lot of organization under the clutter. In my pantry, which I use for food, tools, paints, etc., it’s organized down to types and sizes of screws.

    I love my fridge to be organized, as well. Hey, it’s a goal.

    But, I think that why so many want the Pinterest-worthy fridge and closets is because we feel sooo much is out of our control. We have a government that, in many people’s opinion, where the wheels are flying right off. We go to a job everyday that is like swinging off the back of a roller coaster — and we don’t have the option of letting go. We don’t know if/when we will enter a store or workplace and come out in a body bag. All of these things contribute to us managing what we can. Having control over SOMETHING and allowing us to feel like we actually can adult, rather than to have what feels like a downward trajectory, as opposed to our parents and grandparents, who may have had few of these experiences and feelings. We want things to be in an upward trajectory. To be better and not worse. Yet, we seem to be on some roller coaster ride to the 7th Circle of Hell, where we have little to no control over it.

    So, we order our stuff through the mail, including groceries, organize it all in the fridge and rent a movie online in the enclosure of our living spaces, spending as little time as we can being immersed in all that crazy out there.

    Again, i should just speak for myself but, recently, considering what I’ve been through over the past decade, with the recession and subsequently leaving my family due to attempts at narcissistic abuse, I’ve asked myself when the last time it was that I felt I had a comfortable, happy or even co tent day. I honestly cannot remember. There is always something going on, usually not good, something always on the horizon that has the potential of detonating and even if it doesn’t affect me directly, it’s a bit upsetting, which is why I went from news junkie to not watching TV AT ALL. I watch YT because I curate it for myself, carving out as much as I can that contributes to my misanthropy. As I’ve often said recently, I’d muuuch rather deal with the effects of humanity, than to be face to face with humans. This, too, contributes to clutter!

  9. Less stuff, less decisions. More brain power, more time for what is important to the individual. I agree this isn't for everyone, especially if there's an existing issue. She's hilarious. I love her. Thank you for putting that out there.
    I'm half of the Marie at home, but I feel it has thrown me into a tizzy… I have an 18 month old thrown in the mix. So letting go, and just being happy to be … is huge for me.

  10. This doctor tried to skip the whole subject, she is wrong…and want the attention….yes less stuff and organization in our life make us less anxious and help with mental issues, that's something tell by any doctor just they didnt create the Mary kondo idea $$$$$….. just because you are stuck to material stuff dont mean is the right life style doctor and we all know many doctors are more unhappy than any patient and even JUNKIES, ridiculous to wear trashy socks purposely

  11. I disagree. It is connected to willpower being overrated. If you don't want to eat chocolate, don't rely on your willpower. Just don't buy it. Don't have it around. If your surrounding is tidy, it is easier to be focused.

  12. I loved your socks. I have a huge sock problem because my dog loves to steal and destroy my socks. I would have a hard time wearing unmatched socks but my husband wears them very happily. I yearn to have organization but rarely achieve it. When I was younger I was psychotic about cleaning and organizing when I should have been more focused on my kids.

  13. What kind of disorder does a man have, when he has a female goddess worshiping fetish, worshiping a woman of superior intelligence that will bring order in his life? Would he be considered woke? Ha-ha

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